Episode 17: Pastoring A Family Run Church

Episode 17: Pastoring A Family Run Church

 

How does a family get into places of power in a church?

 

1. They are often faithful givers
2. They are often willing servers
3. They are often strong relationally

 

Which of the characteristics do you not want?

 

When does it become a problem?

 

1. When giving has conditions
2. When service isn't shared
3. When relationships are severed
4. When there is a leadership void -churches that change pastors a lot often have this dynamic.

 

How to deal with the dynamic:

 

1. Identify them quickly. Easy notice who people look at when groups enter the building. Notice who always has people around them.
2. Be able to identify your vision clearly.
3. Build relationships with all people, but build bridges to the family of influence.
4. Whenever a leadership void opens, fill it with someone outside the family as quickly as possible.
5. See warning signs of potential trouble and work to align the family with the church' vision.
6. Be patient. In the first 5 years, you will likely not have more influence than the family. Beyond the first 5 years, you begin to gain the credibility.
7. Avoid backbiting and when necessary hold your ground.